On Writing Anal Sex Scenes

On Writing Anal Sex Scenes

photo: © Tverdohlib.com  | Depositphotos.com

As an erotica author, one of my favorite things to write is anal sex. Quite a few of my stories feature anal sex, and I actually have anal sex myself on a semi-regular basis so I can write from my own experience.

I’ve only ever been on the receiving end of anal (though I think pegging someone would be a lot of fun!) so I can write the “bottom” experience really well.

A part of my enjoyment of writing anal sex is that it’s one of my favorite sexual activities to engage in. I find it incredibly pleasurable and it also makes me feel sufficiently slutty and dirty, which I receive psychological pleasure from. I also really enjoy “watching” my characters derive pleasure from anal and how they share in the experience together.

The vast majority of my erotica features heterosexual couples, so in my case, the woman is the receiver and the man is the giver. Generally, my characters are not brand new to anal, though they may not be tremendously experienced. Together, they have to spend some time warming up to it to make it a pleasurable experience for both of them.

It’s this warm-up period that I think is fun to write. It can be a very intimate process since you can’t just immediately insert a cock or a toy into someone’s anus.

It can be a romantic process as well since both parties are moving slowly and there is often stimulation of other areas, like the clit or the pussy, while the anus is being stimulated.

This warm-up period can often be missed in anal sex content, especially in porn where the performers seemingly go right at it without any warm-up at all. Obviously, the bottom has prepared themselves for the act off-camera, but because it’s not depicted, it can seem to inexperienced people that it’s unnecessary (which is definitely not true!)

But even in erotica, where the author has the time and space to write it, it’s not always depicted in detail.

Another aspect of writing anal sex that I like is focusing on it as an act that can be both very intimate and even romantic, as I said earlier. A lot of anal sex content will focus on the power aspect of it, with the top very clearly dominating the bottom, but the power aspects don’t have to be front and center (although they are always present).

Writing anal sex as romantic can feel downright transgressive as that’s not how it’s conventionally viewed, especially when it’s often perceived as very “dirty.” Depicting it as a fun and intimate way for two people to connect is a little rebellious.

Also, in my scenes, everyone enjoys themselves, whatever their role, which most definitely includes the woman on the receiving end.

Unfortunately, there’s an association with anal sex where a woman is pressured into it by a man, who enjoys the act himself, but leaves her wanting (or worse). In my stories, the woman is all in and enjoying the anal stimulation and her male partner is supportive of her pleasure.

There’s a part of me that likes the idea of more women considering anal sex from the perspective of her own pleasure and not just her male partner’s.

Ambyr Leigh is an erotic fiction author who likes to write cheating and older woman/younger man, among other things. Check out her collection of free ebooks, available at many ebook retailers.

Ambyr's stories with anal sex:

.